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Non-Traditional Dating is the Only Way for Me.



booty up

It’s 2017 and it the way we date and mate has changed dramatically over the years. Increasingly, people are dating in non-traditional manners. From booty calls to side pieces, the traditional method of courting seems to be thrown to the wayside in many cases.

I’ve been single now for the greater part of the last seven years. In this time, I have continued to casually date in a very non-traditional format. I look at myself as polyamorous, I’ve never felt the need to restrict myself to one lover or mate.  At one time in my life, I shared an apartment with my two lovers, one male and the other female. I found it to be a happy and peaceful way of life. You should have seen my stepmom’s face when I’d bring them both to family events.

When I picture my dream life, I see myself and multiple mates sharing a home with our children. I envision a happy community family unit as in the motherland.

That’s just me though.

White Queen

I feel totally disconnected to many of the traditions and time-honored rituals involved in dating. We’ve totally evolved from a time in history when women were essentially sold into marriage (father chose husband, dowry paid) or men asked a father for his daughter’s hand in marriage, to a time in history when two women can marry and have or adopt a child without anyone batting an eye.

We live in an era where even the traditional form of courting has changed dramatically. Gone are the days of a man calling up a woman and asking her out in advance, showing up with flowers or candy, opening doors and paying for the date. That used to be automatic. These days it’s about Netflix and chill, men and women face time and call it courting, dates are dutch treat and he still gets laid at the end of the night, somehow.

Everything has changed.

The freedom to be myself and date as I feel, not as I’m told has afforded me the opportunity to try many styles of dating. I’ve been in the following types of relationship:

  • Single with one lover
  • Single with multiple lovers
  • Dating one guy but having a girlfriend as well
  • Sugar Daddy/Sugar Baby
  • Long Distance
  • Lesbian

I have literally tried everything except traditional dating in the last 10 years. It has been over a decade since I have said to a guy, “I love you and only you.” Truthfully, I have a hard time believing I will ever say those words again. It goes against everything I feel inside. My love is abundant, I want to share it with many people, but love does not mean sex, and sex does not mean love. If I mentally and emotionally connect to someone else, I want to nurture that. I’d want my partner to nurture those relationships in their life without fear of losing me.

I envy those with open sexual relationship but are committed to loving each other. It seems the most natural way of dating and connecting with someone. I’m a firm believer that sex is purely a physical act that happens based off of attraction, pheromones and natural body reactions. It’s beautiful when your partner gives you the freedom to sleep with and connect to others without jealousy and fear of punishment

Keep in mind that doesn’t mean run around screwing everything you can like a dog. I mean genuine connections where your body and mind have already made decisions without you

Sex rarely means love; how else could we explain all of these fatherless children? People are sleeping with each other for all kinds of reasons, love being low on the list. In fact, back in the day, sex was the reason many married, not love. It was frowned upon by our deeply religious society to have sex before marriage.

Just as religions in America have diversified more than ever, so have the ways we date. It seems as if nothing is taboo anymore. The terms “sister wives” “cougar” and “side piece” may as well be added to the dictionary they’ve become so common. Thanks to reality television, those who were ignorant of these lifestyles, now have the opportunity to take a peek into the way others live from the comfort of their living rooms.

As humans, have things that happen to our bodies physically that we have little to no control over. Trying to stifle these feelings and natural reactions because society says what comes natural, must be wrong, it can’t be beneficial to us as a whole. You can’t pretend to be something you’re not and still be happy. Look at Bruce Jenner, trapped for years in the image he was supposed to portray until finally one day he had to be free.

That’s why I think anyone who is getting married should write their own vows. It makes no sense to stand in front of your friends and family and lie to the person you love. Why tell this person that they will be all you want for the next 30, 40, 60 years? Do you want the same meal for dinner daily? Trust me, everything gets old.

I’ll be in open relationships for the rest of my life. Even if I’m head over heels in love with someone ( like I am about the guy I’m seeing now), I know that in the next 30 or 40 years I’m going to get an itch they can’t scratch.

Non-traditional styles of dating aren’t for everyone, but neither is traditional dating as we can see from how little it actually happens. Are you single or booed up? How did you meet your mate? Did you court traditionally or hook u until you realized you were in a relationship?

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Former Love & Hip Hop Hollywood Star, Milan Christopher Butt Naked, Dick Swinging, In Paper Mag.

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DISCLAIMER: ALL photos contained in this post belong to Paper Magazine. I claim no ownership of them.

This morning I was trying so hard to lie in bed and be lazy. It was working for a while. I scrolled happily away through my Facebook timeline until I saw a post from TMZ declaring that Milan Christopher had went full frontal nude in Paper Magazine.

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Like most hot topic articles, I immediately wanted to read the comments. Milan is openly gay and his stint on Love and Hip Hop Hollywood sure raised some eyebrow and kept people talking. Honestly had Milan Christopher not been gay, I probably wouldn’t even know his name. Other than being gay on  reality t.v., I don’t even have a clue what the man does for a living.

MC 2

In the comments I saw that people were talking about seeing the unedited photos of Christopher and  talking about  how  big he was. I was like hmm, I need to see these pics. Milan did not let a girl down. The man may be gay (and if anyone thought he wasn’t, the bent over serving ass to the cam pics should help you believe) but he is fine as hell and his pretty, oiled up body and fun stick, were a joy to see at 8 a.m.

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On posing in the nude, Christopher told the magazine, “You know as a male music artist or man in general showing your male genitalia is so taboo in our culture — but it’s ok for Amber Rose, Kim Kardashian, or Rihanna to do it as females.”

The hard body, tv star also added, “I just kinda want to break that. I think I have a nice body and I think it’s art and I just think that it should be celebrated like they celebrate women’s bodies. So you know, I could be a guy and be gay and be black and be artistic in a nude fashion shoot in the same way that anybody else could.”

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I Finally Released My First Book. SapphirErotica Now Available On Amazon.

book cover


I’m so excited. I’ve been writing erotic stories for urban magazines for the last five years now. So many of My fans expressed to Me that they would love if I’d put together a compilation  of them. I can understand that, not everyone is  going to  buy every  magazine issue I write in .

Now you don’t have to. Now you can purchase a copy of SapphirErotica in print or digital format.

This  hot compilations Includes

                15 Hot Original Erotic Stories

131 pages of sultry and naughty escapades

420 Love

A Birthday Surprise

A Lunchtime Treat

Birthday Sex


Dear Diary I’m Such a Hoe

Facebook Fun

Feed Me I’m Hungry

Fireworks at Midnight

Virgin Ink

My Nautical Valentine

House of Debauchery

Any Time, Any Place

Beach Blanket Bimbo

Paint My Feet with Your White-Hot Love

Now available on Amazon and at


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Love Hot Phone Sex? Check Out The Girls on These 5 Websites. Call One Today!

Hey My loves, I hope that today finds you in  great spirits, Myself I’m feeling  pretty damn good. I was up in the middle of the night taking  dirty on one of My  phone lines and it made Me wonder how many of you enjoy  dirty phone chat.

I’ve  been having nasty  phone sex for almost 10 years now. Phone Sex — let’s do it! Over the years, I’ve had guys calling Me  just to talk about life, bitch about their  wives and  to confess their deepest darkest fantasies and  fetishes.  I’ve enjoyed the closeness that can be developed in talking to a stranger.

I know that these guys call Me and  tell Me everything  from how they  like looking at little girls on the playground to how they love being dominated and degraded, because i don’t know who they are. The freedom in confessing to a stranger is almost too tempting to pass up.


Too often, our  life partners don’t understand the things about us that make us tick. People only get things from their level of understanding. That’s why it’s great that there are women like Me, always waiting to be an ear or shoulder. We’re also here to help you get off and feel good about whatever it is that you like most.

I’m generally  free to talk
Call sosexysapphire for phone sex on Niteflirt.com

I’m not everyone’s cup of tea though, if you don’t want to call me directly there are other  phone sites you can use and  girls you can call.

Niteflirt gives new callers 3 free minutes ( yes you can use those to call Me too) you can talk to any girl you like for free for 3 minutes and hang up no questions asked. Each  girl has her fee to talk set differently so  pay attention if you decide to continue the call.
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Verified Call is another  cool site  for phone sex. I’ve been using the site for over a year. Call Me. I’m not the  only hot chick on  Verified call. There are plenty. You can’t  go on the site and just scroll through. You have to join first.

verified Call

Talk Sugar is another  site you can find hot girls  waiting to fulfill your fantasies, listen to your problems and get off with you. I used to have an account here but don’t think I  do any more. In fact, this is the very first phone sex  company I signed up with years ago. Log in and  check it out.

Talk Sugar

Talk to Me has hundreds of  women sitting by the phone, waiting to hear from you at all times. The biggest benefit ? Talk to Me  even gives  all new customers $10 free. Free phone sex? You  just can’t beat that. Talk to Me offers, sexting, phone sex, web camming and more. Check them out.

talk to me

The  last  site I will leave you with is not  a basic phone sex  site. Instead, it’s a site to help you  find  hot girls to talk to on the phone.  World of Phone Sex is a  great list of phone sex operators and  sites. Check it out.

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Are Men Trying to Chase Me Off? I Don’t Think I Can Do This Meet New People Thing.

OMG  how  do you people date or  even meet  people in this society? People are weird and men, men  have  gotten way too creepy for Me. I KNOW I  need a new sex partner, but at this rate I’ll be fucking the same small dick forever.


Don’t get Me  wrong, while it’s small, it’s enjoyable and  the  sexual experience in itself makes up for any lack of size. I just cut off three lovers  with eggplant dicks and  kept the smaller one because I like him .

 I love  fucking  the big  dick  dudes but these  days it’s all they ave going for themselves. I can remember years ago when a  big  dick dude didn’t even need money to impress Me. He just had to have great convo, free time, great sex and  it always was a plus if he cooked and cleaned. I’ve always had My own place and worked so I really just wanted a  dude to add to My life.

These days, just like blondes with big tits and nothing  between their ears, that’s how i look at  most big dick men I meet.  They come to the table with no real conversation, they want to chill int he house, they don’t have time or the inclination, to build any real connection.


Hell foreplay sucks. How  can you enjoy  sex  that consists of nothing but oral and penetration over and over again? I’m a freak, I enjoy weird things, things that  you can’t do with a guy you picked up yesterday. Things you can only do with someone you have built trust with, someone you  feel safe with. I’m telling you It’s like I’m never going to have the kind of sex I crave.

I met a real loser yesterday. I was so happy to finally meet an age appropriate ( meaning older than me but not an old man) professional  Black man who came off as a gentleman but made it clear he was also a freak. We talked on the phone I enjoyed him, we  conversed and laugh. I was attracted to his southern charm and the fact that he had kids close to My age but carried his age well. ( I tend to like a daddy) But I digress. He seemed the perfect gentleman and we agreed to meet to just talk, because I’m a lady, i don’t care how much of a freak I am that comes first. Once we met, that whole gentleman thing was GONE. He was immediately bothered by the fact that i wore jeans to have a conversation. he actually said he would have preferred I wore a skirt so he could see My twat I reminded him that it was all over My profile and he didn’t need to pretend to be a gentleman and meet Me for that.

He then proceeded to invite Me to dinner and his home the following day, a home more than a hour from Mine as if I’m stupid. When I flat out asked his intentions he made them clear he wanted to have unprotected sex with Me which included Me swallowing. All I could do was laugh at his stupidity. I left when he actually dropped the charade, realizing I was time enough for him and not impressed by his fancy car, big house and all the money he talked about spending on Me. He said ” Do you think I came down here really just to talk.”


Know why this is horrible? I don’t date, in the last year I’ve been on one. I have one sex partner who does not satisfy Me but I can’t even find a man who ALLOWS Me to like him enough to want to sleep with him and try something new.

DON’T get Me wrong, I’m not necessarily looking for love and commitment ( bc I’m not opposed to married men or sharing. I’m a free spirit) but indeed a connection. If I want to hop in bed with some random guy I can pick him on the street not have them pick Me. I’m a stone cold freak and don’t deny it, however, as a writer, entrepreneur, and public figure I’m also cautious about who I interact with. What happened to people hanging out, talking and getting to know each other. I have fetishes that need attending to. I can get sex ANYWHERE, but how can I get into My fetishes with someone I barely know, or have not built a comfort level with?


I am very well aware that men are different these days. I raised Myself different than to accept the things that men call acceptable these days. No one courts. No one wants to actually talk to a person. It is so hard to even WANT to interact with men these days.

It’s liable to be another year before I even look at a new man. You can’t even talk to an older one these days they worse than these young ones. What happened to real men?

I’ll tell you what, it is hard when you ONLY date and sleep with  Black men and they  come up so fucking short. I’m going to  start looking at members of other oppressed nations  soon.

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My Work Has Appeared In 4 Magazine Issues In The last 3 Weeks.

I love My transition into a writer. It’s been so therapeutic for Me to be able to do all of My ranting and venting plus philosophizing about life, in writing.  It’s hard to believe how much My writing as a profession has progressed since 2012 when I started writing for the first magazine.

Eighty6 Blvd


In the last three weeks, My work has been featured in four magazine issues. My writing, articles and erotic stories, has appeared in three magazines. I was interviewed for a fourth magazine about My modeling and writing. I’ve  been getting My write on. I wonder how many of you read these sexy magazines full of hot models I write for.

Badd Magazine


I’m excited. I’ve been offered two more paid magazine columnist positions in the last 2 weeks. Not big money but respect, not being asked to write or work for free, is what matters.  I’ll take all paid assignments though and keep building My writing resume. Soon I’ll be getting high paying writing jobs and all the smaller gigs will be worth it.

Badd Urban Dolls Magazine


I’m approaching 200 articles written for The Urban Twist now. I love this.

Kings Aces Magazine

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I Need the Dust Knocked Off My Ass. I Need A New Sex Partner Bad.

Hey  My loves, I hope this  blog post find you in great spirits. I Myself, am horny as fuck. My sex life is severely fucked right now and I’m almost at My  breaking point. I got to this weird place in life a while back where I have to actually like the person to enjoy having sex with them. Maybe after actually falling in love I have feelings or something now. What I DO know, is that I have to be mentally stimulated and and physically turned on by a guy to get off these days.

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I  truly miss having good, exciting sex. I mean sweat drenching, hair pulling, back scratching, fuck Me in every position and all over the house type sex. I mean I miss having a guy to share fetishes with. More importantly I miss having a man around who’s not afraid to manhandle Me.  You can’t get that when you just fucking a  guy here and there, there’s no real connection. In order  for Me to be free and  freaky as I want to be, there has to be a real connection.


As many know, I identify as a switch.  While I  thoroughly enjoy dominating and degrading white men, I want nothing more  than to submit to a strong Black King. It’s My dream, it’s been way to long. I need a man who can control Me, please Me and make Me his personal slut.

I cut off My lovers really. I kept 3 and all of them are unsatisfying. Most days I choose to just masturbate and I barely enjoy that. One has a huge dick and fucks Me good but we have no connection. I don’t talk to him on the phone and when he’s here we smoke, watch tv and fuck. We’ve been doing this for 10 years now. The other, at least we talk when he’s around. There’s some mental stimulation and the sex is good but we have no real connection. I  don’t talk to him, we don;t hang out. We’ve been doing this for 6 years. The third, I really like, we have a great relationship and talk like 5 days a week. We go out on dates and all, I’ve been seeing him on and off for 13 years, steadily the last 7 years. The ONLY problem is his dick is too small. The sexual experience is great, but the sex itself is only so-so.


I’m used to great sex.  Being able to enjoy My time only with the  guy with the smallest dick SUCKS.

You know what’s worse? They’re all pussies lmao. They all know I give  a serious blow job, they all eat My pussy and  I  never  suck their dicks. The shit is ridiculous. I’d like to suck their dicks, but the connection just isn’t there that makes Me want to suck it. I love sucking dick, I miss it. I just either have to really like the guy or be dominated and well….it’s not happening.

My sex life sucks. I masturbate too much and lately I’m doing it and wondering why at the same damn time. I want to be fucked, I want to be gagged. I want to be with  a man who knows all My kinky fetishes and  caters to them.


I don’t even meet people these days though, people are such weirdos. I miss the days before I was so popular and was just a freak. I swear My sex life was so serious, I fucked who I wanted when I wanted. Sometimes two and three guys a day.

Damn I miss My hoe days.

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What’s Your Favorite Porn Genre? Want To Know Mine?


Let’s talk porn this morning. Everyone watches it  right? In fact, today it is easier than ever to  watch  quality porn. Hell you can  watch  for 24 hours straight if you  have the stamina.

I’m  old school so  I remember  when  porn  only came on  VHS. I watched this  great documentary on  Netflix last  year that celebrated the  best pornos ever made and a lot of them went back to when  porn was only  done on  the 8mm camera and  in little slides.  Something that used to be  so taboo has  truly  now become mainstream.

open wide
open wide

These days,  porn stars are not only  admired and celebrated but  their given awards. You could give the  best blowjob of the year and get a  trophy for it,  what a  job.

I used to tell people I  don’t really watch porn, but that’s a lie. We all watch porn.  The problem was I was so embarrassed by what type of porn I watched. I felt I had to keep it to Myself, lest I be judged.


I watch porn not as  often as many and not even as often as I masturbate. Just  every now and again but when I  do watch, I like a certain type of porn. Myself, I prefer  either a  Black  man on white  chick gang bang or   gay porn. I know it sounds bad but there is something  so appealing in the savagery illustrated when a  group of  hulking  strong  Black men with huge cocks destroy a  lily white  bitch with their  massive  tools. It HAS to be savage. I have  put on a few pornos where the white  girl was loving that BBC and  that shit made Me mad. I am not watching a gang bang  video for a girl to lie there like a happy whore. Nor do I want to see her smiling as  each cock is stuffed into her.

I like to watch a  gang bang where the  actress either  misunderstood what she was  signing up, just wasn’t ready or  is a hell of an actress and  appears mortified at what’s happening. The worst thing you can show Me  porn wise is a white chick happily  gargling on a bunch of Black dick. That BLOWS Me lol ( no pun intended.)

As far as  gay porn I’m kinda the same way. I love watching guys who  don’t know they’re being filmed. The ones who think they  doing some Down Low type shit but the  tranny or other gay due  got the camera rolling.

I don’t know why I like  gay porn  but I tell you, before I ever started watching it on tape or online I used to watch in person  regularly. I used to invite My friends over and watch them  freak off live. it’s always been one of My favorite past times to  watch live sex shows. hell I started giving them when I was in My teens Myself. I had this one homegirl named Nay and Me and My  guys would  fuck in her  room often. She kept  a sheet  she called the “secretion sheet” so we wouldn’t get nut all over her bed and floor lol

Check out my  Pornhub  videos here.

Ah, the  good ol days. Do you watch porn? If so whats your favorite type? How do you watch, online or dvd?


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There’s Freedom In Riding The Subway Naked. Today I Returned To The Scene Of The Crime.



I’m just getting around to  posting here but if you follow Me on  social media  you’ve seen sneak peeks of My latest risque’ photo shoot.  Last month I  took on the most daring shoot I’ve ever taken on. Could I pull off taking photos on the  subway in various stages of dress? Would we really be able to pull of the shot we wanted most, ass naked on the escalator?

on the train relaxing
on the train relaxing

We did that shit man, I killed this shoot.

Headed Out
Headed Out

Today I returned to the scene of the crime wearing the same shirt and a smile. I walked through the station , head held high as I thought about My train ride and how I left naked. I wondered if the  station attendant had seen the video surveillance footage that must exist of Me on the train and in the station. I sat patiently waiting for the train savoring the memories and as I left I was wet. Horny, even, just at the thought of what we had pulled off.

See You Later
See You Later
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50,000 Views Or Higher. Check Out My 13 Most Popular Pornhub Videos

You know how sometimes you work so hard to accomplish something that it happens and  you don’t even realize it because you’re so busy working.  That’s kinda how My popularity is growing in My retirement. I  told people, like  many artist, people would not appreciate Sexy Sapphire until she retired. I was right. I’m getting discovered still daily and have to turn down more offers that I expected.

ready for some fun
ready for some fun

Same  thing is going on with My videos. Everyone is saying how much they love these videos. I get messages from virgins stuck on My fetish  vids even, I love it.

thong in ass
thong in ass

I was on  Pornhub  today  accepting friend requests and  realized that  some of My videos are really popular, many over 100,000 views. I’d like to see those numbers in the millions though.  You can help Me  get there, WATCH and SHARE the following videos.

I got the chance to shoot with a very popular and well known photographer. We straight turned up on the set. Join us.

How about this hot pussy farting video

You’ll love watching Me  fuck Myself silly with this big black cock.

More masturbation?

Like My dick shaped lollipop?

I get fucked real good in this one

I fuck Myself the best

Come hang on the nude beach with Me

Look how I make it cum

Queef Queef Queef goes the pussy

Who doesn’t love phone sex?

Don’t you love hot girl on girl action

Let’s end this with a hot masturbation compilation

Remember  don’t be greedy, share with a friend. Want more hot Sexy Sapphire videos? click the VIDEOS link at the top of the page.

Sexy Sapphire
Sexy Sapphire
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